Successful Mindset

Have you watched Fireproof? There are a lot of people who recommends me to watch Fireproof. Fireproof is an inspirational movie created by Sherwood Pictures. The same creator of Facing the Giants. They have successfully deliver a strong message again from the movie. I never expect to get responses on my articles about Facing the Giants, especially from their PR team. I just watched the movie last week and there is a great thing that I learn from the movie that I feel it would be great if I shared it in here.

Fireproof is a movie about a guy, Caleb, a veteran firefighter trying to save his own marriage from burning to the ground. His wife already pull the trigger to get the divorce, and he is also ready to let bullet hit him, but his father give him 40 days ‘Love Dare’ quest for him to save his marriage from burning down. Well, as expected, this movie is about love and relationship. There are 2 things from the movie that I feel worth to talk about :

1. What Love is All About
After about days 20th+ of his Love Dare attempts, with every single daily attempts was rejected by his wife, Caleb is about to give up saying that his wife doesn’t deserve this efforts. He said “How am I supposed to show love for somebody who over and over and over constantly rejects me?” and his father, John quietly responds “That’s a good question, I couldn’t truly love your mother till I understood what love really was”

Seems like from the movie, Love is all about giving and not expecting back anything. But does love is really about giving and giving and giving only? I wonder who on earth is able to give love only without receiving. People will definitely argue about this point. But, I feel receiving is also as vital as giving in relationship. The ability to receive is what makes us lovable. If you’re a great giver, but a lousy receiver, then you may be able to love, but make it hard for yourself to be loved.

2. God is The Source of Love
Back to the story again, other than Caleb doesn’t really understand what love is about, John also said that Caleb can’t love his wife because he himself doesn’t have one. “You can’t love her…because you can’t give her what you don’t have.”

Yes, I also agree, you can’t give something you don’t have(for everything). The movie showing Caleb understand and obtain Love from God, then he’s able to love his wife unconditionally. I wont spoil how he is finally save his marriage from fire, you gotta watch it!

Here are few good quotes from Fireproof that you may give a thought about it as well:
“Never ever leave your partner—especially in a fire.”

Agree, I know it’s harder than it’s said, but please dont leave your partner, especially your life partner.

“You can’t just follow your heart. Your heart can be deceived. You have to lead your heart.”

Hm.. I guess it will be better if they state it as don’t blindly follow your emotions. Yes, sometimes our heart can be deceived by our own thought that most often is negative, full of worried and fear, and the worst part is that it is not true at all. Remember, thought lead to feeling, so watch your thought

“When most people promise ‘for better or for worse,’ they only mean for the better.”

Hate to admit this.. but it’s always the case..

“Fireproof doesn’t mean that a fire will never come, but that when it comes, you’ll be able to withstand it.”

“A woman’s like a rose. If you treat her right, she’ll bloom. If you don’t, she’ll wilt.”