Successful Mindset

This time I would like to bring a great topic that I really really value it in my life, and I just know the huge secret and potential behind it, Integrity. All this time, I thought self-confidence was more important to achieve success in your life. I focus only on how to boost and maintain high self-confidence and find it’s a bit hard to keep it up all the time, especially when what you’re doing seems go so wrong.

Harv Eker taught me that we need to honor integrity more than anything. Here is the big secret of integrity:

Integrity -> Trust -> Confidence -> Action.

Integrity will lead to trust, trust will lead to confidence to produce action as your result. When you have high integrity, it will boost your self trust and it will boost your self confidence as well. And guess what, it will not only boost yourself, other people will have trust on you and other people will have confidence on you and willing to take action for you too. You see here, integrity is a higher power of energy. When people have higher energy, people will get attracted to you and when they show up, build them (of course you need to have leadership as well).

So, how to build your integrity then?

1. Follow your own values.

There is a quote “Don’t sell your high self to your lower self”. What does it mean? it means don’t sell your soul to your ego. it means don’t sell your self to Satan. In Hebrew, Satan means crazy thought, so what happened when you sell your self to crazy thought?

2. Tell the truth.

A lot of people always speak bull shit in their life because they fear and they want to gain approval on others. Each time you say ‘yes’ when you actually want to say ‘no’, you lie, and each time you’re lying, you lose your power. Just a simple case: someone close to you invite you to have dinner together with you, but you don’t feel like it, then when they ask, you just say ‘yes’ because you dont want him to feel bad. Worst case, you didn’t go on the last minute. Instead, you can just say ‘no thank you’ and smile. If he insist then tell the reason by speaking the truth with compassion.

3. Keep your word and commitments.

Simple, please say what you mean and mean what you say only, or don’t fucking say it at all. In the bible, Jesus say: Let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes’ and your ‘No’ be ‘No’.

When you have a commitment and you didn’t keep it, you will start to feel disappointed to yourself, upset because you’re untrustworthy and unreliable. Worst of all, each time you make a commitment to your self and you didnt do it, you will feel untrustworthy, unreliable to yourself and you wont have self confidence.

So, whatever you say, DO it! When you always do what you say from verbal world into action (physical world), you manifest it. When you always manifest what you say, you will become like genie, when you say something, it happens, you say something else, it also happens. God will also be happily help you out to fulfill what you say. Your word become law. Isn’t it interesting? When you never keep your word, what you say is shit and your word is garbage. People will see your weakness right away and no one respect you.

Let’s imagine you have big balloons that represents your desire / commitment such as I want to be faithful to my wife, I will have $10 million income/year and etc. Medium balloons that represents your less important desire, and small balloons that represents tiny word / activities in your daily life such as I will clean up my room tomorrow, I will meet with Tom at 11 am.

Now, for sure you want to manifest your big balloons, but if you can’t even manifest the small one, how the hell you think you can manifest the big one? when you say to your self you will do this and you never do it, you’re always late for appointment? Stop fooling yourself by wanting to achieve the big balloons. Start manifest the small thing, and keep doing it, the big one will come naturally.

So, what happened when you have already committed to something and for some reason you can’t fulfill it or you change your mind? You formally have to decommit yourself from your commitment. Decommit will release the energy and vibration from the universe, but you can’t abuse it and always decommit when you change your mind, there is no point doing it. If it’s involve 2 people, you need agreement from another person, you can’t just decommit everything by yourself.

Once you has visions and commitment, BAM, it’s done. But remember to finish your vision one at the time, one by one. Don’t jump from one vision to another vision without accomplishing it. If you can’t even accomplish one, what makes you think you can accomplish another one?

The secret is simple, the more you do what you say, the more power you will have and the more God willing to help you out, and you shall achieve what you want in your life.